{"entry":[{"id":"33249468","hash":"c1272851c8bc39f754c855efa9cd3b19","requestHash":"5kidsmom","profileUrl":"http:\/\/gravatar.com\/5kidsmom","preferredUsername":"5kidsmom","thumbnailUrl":"http:\/\/0.gravatar.com\/avatar\/c1272851c8bc39f754c855efa9cd3b19","photos":[{"value":"http:\/\/0.gravatar.com\/avatar\/c1272851c8bc39f754c855efa9cd3b19","type":"thumbnail"},{"value":"http:\/\/0.gravatar.com\/userimage\/33249468\/ac48d08d4ef3e3e9680fc64744a0bed0"}],"name":{"givenName":"lauren","familyName":"mariani","formatted":"lauren mariani"},"displayName":"5kidsmom","aboutMe":"I am a  divorced mother of five children. A lifelong psychology maniac, who has a very deep understanding of the mind, and it's mysterious workings. I am currently studying to earn my certification as a Life Coach. As a child, I grew up with a mother who suffered depression.  I was educated at a very young age, and fortunate enough to have, in spite of my mothers depression, a very loving environment. This was due mostly to the fact that my dad understood my mothers condition, and worked closely with doctors, and family counselors, to assure the 7 of us children would grow up to be stable adults in spite of our familys core issue. At a very young age I became aware of 'words', and the power they hold. I was often times criticized through the dark verbal episodes of my mom. I was lucky though, as I had a strong and effective counter act...Dad. What made my situation manageable, that is, what helped prevent severe permanent damage, was within itself, rare. Our family, like millions of others, suffered, however unlike many more typical families, I was able to become a rather 'unscathed' adult. Through education and awareness, which my father made absolute. My mother loves us all, and had deep sorrow, which really made things bittersweet because she wasn't simply a bitch. She suffered more than us kids, because for her, it also meant hurting us kids as a result. However, as fate would have it, I found myself in a marriage that followed right along in the footprints of my mothers verbal abusiveness, but the fork tongue belonged to my (now) x-husband. He verbally attacked every one of the kids, and I was constantly fighting to get him to see that what he was doing, and that his behaviour was surely to have a permanent effect on the kids. I was in constant conflict, protecting the kids, lecturing and fighting with him, sweeping away the daily debri.....controlling the damage. Ultimately, we divorced, and believe me when I say, 'we do become our parents'. In my case, I became my father as the world of my children was tormented through verbal attacks from the mouth of their father. I was constantly counter acting, and making sure the kids knew none of what he was saying to them was true---in fact, it was to be ignored! In spite of my attempts, there is still permanent damage. I see it with my kids. I see it everyday. I am here to say, 'Sticks & Stones can break, not the bones, but People'. I know that parents often times need to simply be deprogrammed, and reminded, that what's in the heart, often times flies off the tip of the tongue. In this age, in this world of high stress, single parent families, addiction, and a somewhat Godless nation, parents need a little help. A reminder, that their children believe every word they say. They are often times helpless to the words of their parents, and that they not only deserve to be spoken to with love and kindness, but they NEED positive affirmation. Children have but one childhood, parents have but ONE SHOT at making sure their children have one that not only is memorable, but solid enough to carry them out into the world. That they are equipped, confident, and worthy of living their adult life as productive adults. If we don't give them this when they are young, they are doomed. They will struggle forever, and we will have failed because we set them up for failure. I believe we can change this. Through a simple technique, interactive for both parents and children, we can band together for 'JUST ONE SHOT' because that's all we have to make sure we take it, and get it right! For the sake of children everywhere, we can use our words as tools of power...tools of love. The Carnival is for kids, let them enjoy the merry go round, because God knows, that's a very short ride...The roller coaster of life is for us adults!\nI have a sister blog 'MoveOverGrizwald!\" and there I share with you the outrageous family vacations, and crazy family events that I experienced. It is a humorous blog and one designed specifically with Mom in mind. I hope you enjoy the wacky stories! Thanks for blogging with me!","accounts":[{"domain":"blogger.com","display":"blogger.com","url":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/10964899713493689894","userid":"10964899713493689894","verified":"true","shortname":"blogger"},{"domain":"twitter.com","display":"@justoneshot55","url":"http:\/\/twitter.com\/justoneshot55","username":"justoneshot55","verified":"true","shortname":"twitter"}],"urls":[{"value":"http:\/\/robbmariani.com","title":"American Trucker TV Show"},{"value":"http:\/\/chrismariani.com","title":"Chris Mariani Singer\/Performer"},{"value":"http:\/\/MoveOverGrizwald.wordpress.com","title":"Move Over Grizwald!"}]}]}