Given the choice, I devote my social energy to a small group of people I care about most, preferring a glass of wine with a close friend to a party full of strangers. I think before I speak, have a more deliberate approach to risk, and enjoy solitude but when I find like-minded people I like to spend my time with them. Unless I am very comfortable and surrounded by understanding long-time friends, I may be slow to warm up in a social gathering. But once I feel comfortable I get along with most everyone and have a great sense of humour, in fact, my humour often prevents conflict in contentious situations as I abhor conflict. I would rather take the blame (even unjustly) than stir up controversy or pick a fight. I may struggle with self-confidence. On the job, I do not seek power or the limelight but work steadily and methodically. I am a team player, though if charged with leadership, I will fulfil the mission without becoming a tyrant. I can work with the most difficult of personalities. I prefer job security, working within a structured organization, but can also be a leader of great character and service. I value my friendships, but I don't need many just a few really good friends, to whom I am intensely loyal.
I feel energized when focusing deeply on a subject or activity that really interests me. I can spend hours in artistic endeavours, reading, drawing or in nature.
I seek out environments of peace, sanctuary, and beauty; I have an active inner life. While I may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, I have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine.
I am idealistic, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better but sometimes I feel overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that I can’t fix.
I need alone time to recharge my batteries (intense social activities or large groups will stress me out) and I usually need the motivation to get started on new projects. Once I begin, though, I will persevere to the end. I can be perfectionistic and have some fear about new situations (fear of what might go wrong). Friends might think I am a little pessimistic--though I would say "realistic" (and I am probably right).
When deciding how to move forward, I use to be guided by my principles, rather than by logic, excitement, or practicality. I will look to honour, beauty, morality and virtue.
If I am not careful, I may start to lose touch, withdrawing into “hermit mode”, and it can take a great deal of energy from my friends to bring me back to the real world.
It has taken most of my life to become aware that the person I know myself to be is vastly different than the way others perceived me.
If you are an introvert and you don’t talk a lot, people will automatically assume that you are a very meek and mild-mannered person. What they don’t realize is that we introverts often go quiet because we have so many passionate thoughts rushing through our heads that it’s impossible to verbalize them all. I often settle for just a friendly smile or quiet chuckle in response to whatever someone is monologuing to me about because trying to get a word in edgewise just doesn’t feel worth the effort.
I often feel like I am two different people. First, there’s the shy and fragile woman who others perceive me to be just because I’m not constantly talking. Then, there’s the bitingly sarcastic real me that emerges only around a select few friends and family members.
I have an inner warrior that emerges the moment you assault one of my core beliefs or values. I don’t like conflict or arguing with people, but I will definitely do it if there is a cause that needs a champion.
Being quiet may leave others to misinterpret my silence sometimes, please don’t proceed to underestimate me just because I’m not dominating the conversation. Introverts are just as capable of being smart and funny as extroverts are.
Being an introvert doesn’t mean that you want to be alone all the time. But unfortunately, in order to meet people to share your inner world with, it’s necessary to go out and socialize.
When I socialize, I am always looking for a new person with whom I can share my passions and my world. We could lay side by side on the beach and read in complete silence.
When I tell people I’m an introvert, or when people observe my quiet nature, they have a tendency to assume all I like to do is stay home and read books.
Yet while I consider being alone my natural state, that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy doing other things as well, such as travelling to foreign countries and meeting new people. It just means that before I start enjoying these things, I’m often filled with an overwhelming sense of anxiety at all the unknowns. I am highly in tune with everyone and everything around me. I walk into an environment and the energy affects my own mood greatly.
This is the kind of person I am and I hope we can get along well.