My relational rap sheet is extensive. I've been a wife, a mother, a stepmother, and a divorcee twice. I've learned more lessons that I wanted, participated in my fair share of bad decisions, am recovering from marrying fixer uppers and trying to still do good deeds when clearly no good deed goes unpunished.

I am now married to a man who needs no fixing and we support rather than enable. I began journaling in the hopes that my son would read these words one day and hear my side of the story. Feeling alone, I published my thoughts on this blog and I have met so many parents who are in similar situations. The realization of people’s cruetly is overwhelming.

Our children need us to love them, not use them as game pieces and collateral.